Long distance relationships are something we always associate with romantic relationships: someone moving halfway across the world while the other is left behind, pining for what they’ve lost and eventually coming to realise that their lives are too far apart to make it work, or in some instances the one left behind moves to live with the other because they’ve realised that love is the most important thing in the world.
Yeah yeah, blah blah blah- we’ve all seen the movies but we never actually define long distance relationships as being between family members… They’re still relationships, right? So why can’t they be long-distance?
More often than not family members are spread across the country or even the world. All those people, assuming they have a healthy relationship with their family, would probably agree with me that it’s so hard just like any romantic relationship. It’s not just leaving after seeing each other, it’s not even wishing that you could properly share moments together (even though I’ll be the first to admit that that’s incredibly difficult:) it’s knowing that miles and miles stand in the way of you and a FaceTime or phone call isn’t going to feel the same as a face-to-face conversation and never will do.
You’d think it’d be easy to call someone far away and feel like for those moments, you can’t possibly miss them because they are there with you- not in person but you’re connecting with them as much as you physically can. Wrong. Those are the times that you miss them the most because you’re reminded of how much happier you make each other’s lives. Cheesy I know, but I bet you thought you were getting some juicy gossip when you saw the name of this post and believe me when I say, there is none to tell so this will have to keep you satisfied instead.
Anyway, until you experience it I don’t think you realise how deeply you feel about someone else and how sorely you’ll miss them when you can’t see them everyday or as often as you want. There isn’t a great moral to this story: I’m not saying appreciate your family every minute of your life because we all know that would be exhausting and frankly, families can be annoying at the best of times. What I do want to say is that you shouldn’t presume that family relationships are not hard because they’re not romantic.
They’re still relationships, right? So why can’t they be hard?